Wednesday, January 31, 2007

I just want to be skinny

If you’re a young woman about to hit twenty-one there are a few things you want, the killer dress with amazing shoes and accessories, birthday memories that will last throughout your life, the very cute date to show off and adore, the best time you’ve ever had whilst losing about ten kilo’s from your wonderfully curvaceous body in order to be ‘skinny’….can you pick the odd thing out?

This evening I entered this conversation, with someone I hold dear to me, about how there is nothing more important then looking like a celeb even if it means putting your health at risk to her. May I just state for the record many people who meet this wonderful individual are jealous of her, she’s fun, flirtatious, intelligent, free spirit with a gorgeous look to match, why the hell would she want to change it you ask? Because she is genuinely insecure when she leaves her work gear at home and heads out on the town for a good night out, all she can see around her are ‘skinny’ women. I have to admit that Melbourne is full of gorgeous people who are seemingly perfect but we all have our faults and insecurities people, we’re not made of stone and something like eighty-five percent of us are not vain/self absorbed or think we’re sexy or hot. The thing that really screwed up my mind is that this woman is without a doubt always being checked out and could have many a man if only she had a little more self confidence.

Not everyone is meant to have that slender look because for most of the population we are stuck with curves and bumps and unless you want to go to surgery you cannot change your bone structure or where your body wants to put its storage. Being ‘skinny’ is like the new black apparently but truth be told it is an unhealthy trend, for those of you who have the structure and the small figure I say good luck to you but for those who don’t have the structure and a perfectly proportioned and healthy why would you want to jeopardise your body with something addictive that will cut down your life span in order to make you look sickly?

While I’m here I have a bone to pick with the media yes you, you know who you are magazines with your flashy titles sold to every teen/bored house wife saying which celebs are ‘fat’ and which have become ‘anorexic’, hows about you stop pointing the finger and leave them be! The pressure of being a celebrity in this day and age would suck because it’s not your talent that gets judge its every minute detail what your wearing, who your sleeping with, I mean lighten up! They are people to you know they have insecurities and emotions so when you start calling them ‘fat’ they are going to do what every other emotionally hurt person would try what anyone insecure about their weight would do until they develop an eating disorder and then try to have to reverse the whole thing. Yes I admit that being a celebrity would mean having to deal with the media but who wants to hear about how Britney is ‘letting herself go’ when the woman hasn’t sang or acted for something like four years!

Embrace what you have I what I’m trying to get at and if you want to shed some poundage do it the old fashioned way, diet and exercise and if that still isn’t getting you where you want then stop reaching for those Doritos and chocolate and see what you can do apart from binging when things don’t go your way and if symptoms continue please go see your doctor.


At 8:18 pm, January 31, 2007, Anonymous shannon said...

u say all the things i think lol n while most ppl say im not fat im not thin either lol i love ma curves hehehe it shows i can bare childrean hhehehe

much love

At 10:08 am, February 01, 2007, Blogger SexyNinjaMonkey said...

I actually had an eating disorder for a while... partly related to depression... but still, i hardly ate anything.
Now i just don't really have the time to eat on weekends.

Personally i like my girls firmly shaped ;) not too big, not too small. None of that twiggy model bs... I mean if their dress hangs off them they have no chance with me.

At 3:16 pm, February 01, 2007, Anonymous Bettina said...

I kudos you...I'm're right on.

At 3:17 pm, February 01, 2007, Anonymous Nikki said...

i guess your right but things aren't always so black and white. life's hard and losing weight isn't easy.

while i agree with you about the media i also disagree, the media is suppose to say stuff about celes thats how they make money and yes they shouldn't say people have eating disorder and say that every1 should be skinny but thats life.

who this person is that your talkin about she needs to realise that making yourself skinny won't make you happy, love your body and be pround of who you are.

good speech bee =)

At 3:18 pm, February 01, 2007, Anonymous Teresa said...

Bee that was an extremely profound blog entry. I can relate to alot of really is too deeply ingrained in our society that thinness brings happiness. I can tell you from experience it doesn't. I think most girls have been there, done the whole rapid weight loss thing. It horrible, you cant concentrate, hold a conversation, get up to walk to the phone. Plus it scares the hell out of those who love and cherish you most. People should try to embrace what they have....i know its extremely hard but life is too short to starve and socially isolate yourself because you think you aren't perfect enough. No one is perfect. Thats one of the hardest lessons to learn. Congratualtions on assessing the stark realities facing women today, i cried lol!! xxx

At 3:27 pm, February 01, 2007, Anonymous Melisa said...

Very well said, couldnt have said it better.

At 3:31 pm, February 01, 2007, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey, i love your bulitens, especially the ones about cecil lol, so entertaining. And yes you are right, every time she does go out, she lacks confidence, always wishing she coulkd br skinnier lah de dah.

Now i lost 10 kilos by going to the gym and eating healthy, not because i wanted to be skinny or celebrity looking, I wanted to feel healthy, i wanted to stop eating takeaway, but i also wanted to feel better about my body, i wanted to walk around in a bikini and feel proud - and i know very well u can do that when u fat but it just doesnt look as good does it lol.

And cecil scares me sometimes when i walk into a room the death stares i get from her - why? Because im skinnier than her or because im wearing something that she wants... who knows lol. But her insecurities get to me, especially when she cant god damn stop staring at me all night and i ahve to yell at her in front of others. But I worked my ass off to get where I am I dont know if she realises, i didnt magically lose weight!!! Anyways, this stays btwn me n u lol.... she doesnt need to know!

At 6:45 pm, February 01, 2007, Anonymous Samantha said...

i agree!

its an issue i have faced so many times and due to the pressure have lost a substantial amount of weight myself...and still feel the need to lose more but not to the point of where i am a skeletal figure but to where i am in my healthy weight range!

At 8:35 pm, February 01, 2007, Anonymous post -goer existentialist muthafucka said...

That is a such a good blog, I agree with and support both arguements. The whole idea that everyone that looks one way is "hot" and anyone who doesn't well we will make you feel like crap till you hurt/damage yourself, is that what makes us a "civilized" society?

This goes for so many things like that. Myself personally I am about the whitest boy you would ever be able to find and I watch tanorexic idiots turn themselves orange and deleberately tempt the fate of getting skin cancer because they want to be browner. I understand the attraction to tan complexions I really do, even if you tan was prefect all year round and you change yourself from whiteish to browner, if you meeet some one as soon as that person meets or sees your family guess what the game is over. Again the media and business have a role to play in that as well, its gret that they have sun screen ads followed by ads for non steaking tan solutions.

At 1:53 am, February 03, 2007, Blogger JayD said...

Nice blog - thanks for the comment you left on mine way back whenever that was. I just came back to the site today after being away for a while.

Broke the ankle over 9 months ago now and I'm still in physical therapy...still can't run.

At 7:53 pm, February 03, 2007, Blogger zzzaaapppme said...

follow your dreams and be skinny

At 12:09 pm, February 05, 2007, Anonymous cuddy said...

kudos to diet an exercise.
and... could britney spears even act anyways?

At 3:17 pm, February 08, 2007, Anonymous Claire said...

Due to my technical ineptness i deleted what i was going to say.

But whatever size you are, it's not your size that makes you who you are, it's what you do!

Kudos Mate, have fun!

At 8:57 pm, February 08, 2007, Anonymous Jero said...

Right on....

At 10:20 pm, February 08, 2007, Blogger Urkat said...

Skinny or rather, a low body fat ratio, is sexy. I haven't managed it myself in some time but that doesn't keep me from trying. Low calorie intake is associated with long life in scientific tests and being overweight is a BIG factor in disease. It still pays to keep our weight down because it has more benefits than just looking good.

At 6:53 pm, February 12, 2007, Anonymous kudoes said...

and where do you fit under all this ? is this self related that you need to look at your friends isssue but not your own too ?

At 6:53 am, February 13, 2007, Anonymous Spray MCF said...

"the media is s'posed to say stuff about celbs'??
Technically, maybe it falls under their job description......

Yes Spicy P, lay off the doritos indeed.!
Yes Love your body as it is and love life, but if you really want a different body, then it is possible, very simply and attainably possible.

If you hold an intention firmly, such as wanting a new/different body, then the universe will respond in a simple way. It will inspire you to make better choices each and every day, until your intention is realised/manifested.
At the same time it is vital to accept utterly whatever is happening right now.

So, Ok, i might be 20 kilos heavier than i would like to be, but is it going to cause anything positive by me getting upset about it now?
OF course not.
BY accepting it, I allow thew space for my intention to lose the weight, get fitter and excercise more to take place.

How do i know this>?
I, and millions of others are living this right now.
Over the past month I have dropped4 kilos, drastically increased my fitness level and my lean muscle mass, and i feel better each and every day.
By the end of this year, I will look and feel a year younger, if not more.

And it all started with a thought!

THink about that!



At 2:46 pm, April 25, 2007, Anonymous Anonymous said...


Hey Bel its the pain from work

dont worry about skinny you have an a1 personality and thats all that matters and you see good in all people

I mean fancy seeing good in me or phoebe thats a task in its self have a good anzac day and dont get too drunk

At 5:49 pm, June 25, 2007, Anonymous Anonymous said...

did u write this because ur fat and unhappy too ?


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