The anal and unobtainable obsession
Like most of the ladies I wonder why the males of today have the curiosity and the urge to try and attempt anal penetration or sex and last night I came up with two things that made me think of why males would want to this, the first I realised when I was out and about on the dance floor (on Saturday), it’s the easiest way for a guy to come up to you and dance with you if your with your friends, the behind approach gets close enough for a little bump and grind while a gal can still shake her stuff and drive the man nuts. The second thing I got to thinking about is how anal is something most of the ladies wont do and we all want what we cant have so the ass becomes unobtainable and to actually get it is like a big thing, and all this thought of anal sex got me thinking about the other things we want but cant have. When I say wanting things we can’t have I don’t just mean sexually either I think of it as everything that we have wanted that we cannot obtain, for example that special someone who blows your mind and you’d give anything to be with them but they are just out of reach. With this line of thinking it also made me think about getting the things you crave and desire and once you have them is it really what you wanted? My older sister for example was in love with our neighbour’s son (Hesh-Ham hahaha Mia) and she had wanted him since the dawning of time and one day she finally got him and she had never been more disappointed but thing was she didn’t build the thing up in her mind, she just admired him from afar until she got some confidence and then got him. So is it because we are afraid of our expectations and what out come they may have that we do not truly pursue what we want? Or do we simply want these things because we can’t have them and if we could do we really want them? So Ladies and gents share the experience of the anal and or unobtainable obsessions.
posted by spicey pineapple @ 11:28 am
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I have absolutely, positively no desire for anal sex. None, seems gross to me - pussy is right there! Why would you want it in the ass? I guess it is tighter, but I think it would be a little much, and just...not for me at all, never understood the attraction.
But I love doggy style, so, whatever's clever.
J.S.
Mena Suvari is always out of reach for me...damn.
As for anal, some girls like it, some don't. I've never tried it so I can't speak from experience. I guess it's whatever floats your boat so to speak.
Madam: If I want to have sex anally, I can do that with a sheep. Or a man. Or a canteloupe. Women are women, that is why they are desireable. Furthermore, sex is very much a give and take thing. BOTH parties should be thrilled and delighted. This is very easy to obtain, usually. It simply requires attention being paid and sincere interest.
bella mia i think ur onto something....i cant count the number of times the ex tried to go there...n he clearly knew he was not welcome....hmmm
I'm definately a fan of the back door, i've only tried it once and it was great, and she loved it too (it was her idea by the way), i wrote a blog about it ages ago, so i'll reprise it below
On Thursdays on Man and the City I’ve decided we’re going to get dirty, crack open the crate in the naughty side of the brain and really talk about sex, and if were going to get dirty the only place we could possibly start is in the dirtiest spot of all, down the back alley, in the chocolate jar. (If you were wondering I came up with this idea at 4am this morning while suffering from insanely bad insomnia!)
I’ve personally managed to find myself in fun hole number two just the one time. I was lying in bed with a girl I was seeing casually after, well, after having sex, and she out of the blue turned to me and said “have you ever done a girl in the butt?” An hour later I had!
Dirt box sex was something I had long fantasized about, and I really don’t know why. I mean it’s dirty isn’t it? Why would I want to stick my penis somewhere like that when there is such a lovely spot to insert it right next door. Somewhere that doesn’t require half a tube of lubricant and doesn’t come out with a bad smell. Yet for some reason a significant proportion of us guys want to go up there.
Maybe it’s because it was actually really good. It was very similar to regular sex, and yet really different. I liked the novelty of it, I liked the fact that it was a first thing for her too, I liked that I had to be gentle and doting, I liked that she trusted me, I liked that it was tight, and I liked that she really, really enjoyed it.
I wasn’t expecting that. I thought it would be painful and uncomfortable and not pleasurable at all for her, but she really loved it, she even made a point of calling me the next day to thank me and let me know that she felt no bad after affects at all. I asked her if she liked it as in glad she’d tried it or liked it as in wanted to add it into her regular repertoire, and she was sure it was the second. She may well have some guy up there right now; sadly I never got another chance.
The Hershey highway seems to be more and more popular these days. If you look for it on Google you’ll find more than forty million websites dedicated to the subject, seemingly most of them showing pictures or video of people mid act. Statistics from various sources suggest that 25% of heterosexuals have given it a stab. The rumor mill has been telling me that the kiddies these days are getting into it big time as a way to maintain their virginity (I’ll have to disagree with this assessment) or to avoid pregnancy. If teenagers were going down the brown road when I was young I certainly never heard about it, and I was never invited on a road trip, although I was far from the man in the know back then. Also it seems to be as important in porn now days as the money shot.
And still, as much as I am a fan, I really just don’t know why, but guys want to explore that territory. It’s not because it’s a pretty spot. Guys like porn, but we don’t look at pictures of that particular zone. I’ve never heard of a guy saying “you should have seen this chick; she had the hottest asshole I’ve ever seen!” And I, and most guys I know, never want to have our own houses invaded from the rear.
Is it hypocritical of me to want to go there if I’m not willing to take it? I do know of two male friends who have confessed to enjoying a finger up there every once and a while, and one friend of a friend, apparently, even likes his girlfriend to use a strap on and get right on in. At least some gay guys obviously like it, from all reports some gay men are specifically “bottoms” meaning they take it but don’t offer it. So there must be some pleasurable aspects to it. From all reports this stems in women from hitting a spot of the clitoris only accessible from the rear (a delightful thought), and in men from attacking the prostate (not a delightful thought). Still its dirty isn’t it? Or maybe it’s because it’s dirty?
So what is the deal with anal sex? Are we all just getting more sexually experimental? Is this a sign that we’re entering a new phase of free love? (Please let it be that!) Have you tried it? If so did it become a regular part of life or was it just a one off? If not do you want to? Or is that just one hole that’s a no go?
I'm just glad my man never wants to go up there & just doesn't get it either - call me conservative but...well, yes...yes I am for this.
More to the point of the blog though - what is it about things we can't have that make them so desirable? I think it'd have to be the fact that we can't have them...so we can fantasise whatever we want about them! This especially works with people. It's not them you want 'cause often you dont even know them - it's what you imagine will happen with them if you did have them. It is an imagined version of them & their relationship with you that makes them desirable. But deep down we know that those things won't be as we imagine...doesn't mean we'll stop wishing they were.
I think novelty is a big part of what drives us to desire something. When the novelty wears off, the mystique is gone. Only the new stays exciting.
I think anal can be great, but only if the woman wants it that way. If she's that turned on, it's bound to be good.
Anal is alright, i guess it's just something every guy needs to get out of their system. Some really get into it, most get over it.
As to wanting what you can't have, i do that constantly, whether it be a 42" screen to watch my dvd's or a beautiful girl i met in a club or even the latest dSLR camera (could not afford any of them). I guess it's just human nature to be covetous.
you want it in the ass dont you
Anal sex is a wonderful experience, Not only is it the tightest penetrable hole in the human body but there is also a closeness involved. When she is trusting you to be gentle and communication is open, there is really nothing else like it. Also on the note of it being dirty as long as the woman has good hygiene it is clean. There are numerous sites that give tips but main points are relaxation, communication, lubrication.
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