Chicks before dicks and bro’s before hoe’s
The saying that you often hear when you're going through heartbreak or your partner is giving you the shits or you have just had enough of dealing people who are supposedly the other 'fish in the sea', you will often hear the expression or something similar to 'mates before dates', this is all very good cause you know you have people who support you when those things occur.What do you do though when you really like/love/care about someone which buddies and your pals just don't like for one reason or another? Do you give up your happiness thinking perhaps the relationship probably won't last, try make your friends see what you see or do you ditch your buddies for this one person? It's tough especially when both mean equally as much to you and trying to make them at least try get along for your sake fails? Eventually you will lose one or the other and it sucks it really does and anyone who has ever experienced this knows what I'm talking about.
Under certain circumstances the person who want does not want to get to know your mates or the other way around, I have found that it is usually the fellas who don't want to know about their girlfriends guy mates and the ladies don't really want to hear about the hot best friend who your so very close with. But you always allow for the two groups of people to try and make nice so it's easier for you especially when you can see something permanent coming your way with both or either party.
No matter how much you dislike someone's partner or mates you should always make an effort for the middle person, because it is them who has to put up with and deal with both. Even if it is simple 'hey how is everything' conversation it helps. Try to think of as meeting a member of the family you don't like but can't get rid of.
Bro's before hoes and chicks before dicks will always be something you can depend on, but it's nice to know that your two worlds can co-exist and that people can at least make an effort for your happiness.
posted by spicey pineapple @ 9:04 am
9 Comments:
I don't buy it for a second - friends come and go, and they DO come and go, that's the nature of life...but what kind of a world is it when those for which we have genuine romantic/sexual feelings for and are lucky enough that they feel them back, and we're throwing that away? What? To drink and watch DVD's? Not how it works, people should realise that people are going to put their romantic/sexual wellbeing behind their friends, nor should that decision even have to be made.
J.S.
"Black cloud man" gave a good answer (really!)...for a guy. We are lead to believe our whole loves that boys and girls are the same and have the same needs. NO! Just, no! LIE! Unfortunately for females, their mates are so much more than drinks and dvds. This is why you will find it more common to see males ditch their mates for their woman after a certain age, but not as much for women - in fact, quite the opposite.
I'd just recommend talking to both parties about this, tell them how you feel. Maybe keep them seperately when dividing up your time until they come to their bloody senses.
As for me - he makes you happy? I like him.
Romantic relationships were designed to be for ever. Just about any other relationship can end, but at the end of the day, your significant other will always be there for you no matter how many of your friends leave you!
And you used paragraphs!!
Hi Wayne!!
i agree with that completely. only thing is last time i tried to get my boyfriend to get along with one of my guy friends, my friend started throwing punches. now they hate eachother and it IS hard. but since the fight the friend hardly speaks to me and then i came to a relization: if he was really my friend he would have atleast accepted the fact he makes me happy and not have gotten involved with it. so another part of the partner vs. friends battle is you need to know who your friends are first before you start deciding. friends come and go, as said before. but true love can last a lifetime. if they cant accept the fact that someone makes you happy, then maybe its not worth being such friends with them. now im not saying 'oh never ever talk to them again!' but only of casual occations. but thats your choice as well. kudos ^_^
oh and i like you and wayne together. im very very happy for you both =)
Okay. Couple of things before I proffer your answer, madam. Firstly, it is, "Bros before hos, dicks before chicks". Apostrophes need not apply, and a hoe is a farming implement.
Secondly, I am glad you have used a proper picture of yourself because previously, when commenting, I began, "Dear Mr. Lewis" at which point me bestest best friend Mr. Santoro, wandering by whilst finishing a bottle of Jagermeister, stopped, squinted at the screen, and said, "You realize, of course, this blog is not owned by Jerry Lewis-"
I, without missing a beat, replied, "Of course I do. NOW...." and began hitting the backspace button feverishly.
He then said, while falling down and under the sofa, "And Dean Martin is dead."
"Certainly," I responded, and began hitting the backspace button some more.
So, thank you for that clarification, madam.
I do love that old black and white shot, however.
*ahem*
Now.
Fleixibility in a relationship is everything, but love is love and maturity is a big part of it. Offhand, I would say, give the boyfriend a shot, first although he seems to be a dick.
naww hugz
i love you beh.. i hope everything works out for you
♥ Dani xoxox
My best friend had this same problem, he got a gf & none of his mates would talk to her or anything, they pretty much ingored her when she was around & complained that he was always doing stuff with her instead of them when she wasnt around... they made no effort & now hes marrying her & far as i know the only one of his friends she likes is me :P cus im the only one that made an effort to get to know my mates girl. I hardly ever see her but still, i will say hi & ask how shes going & stuff when i see her. Even ask my mate how shes doing since shes never around. Shes a nice enough person when you get to know her, as long as the rest of his mates arnt there giving her hell :P
Old friends can get jealous when you find someone else you want to spend alot of time with, they where here 1st, they have been your friend longer... so they seem to think that they should get more attention then a new friend or partner?? It's just silly & childish if you ask me but it can happen to the best of us at times when that one person we care so much about finds someone new & wants to be with them. We dont care that they want to be with us as well, we want them all to ourselves!! Its human nature to be jealous & other not so nice stuff sometimes but its not pretty & we should stop ourselves & calm down & think about what we are doing, sacrificing our best friends over some silly emotions is not something we would ever want to do...
Well thats what i think, i dont get people that wont even try to get along with a mates new friend or partner. I get along well with everyone, except those few people who seemed determined to not get along with me for some reason... Bro's before hoes & chicks before dicks is a stupid idea to me, they should all be able to get along, or at least put up with each other & not make things harder for the poor friend stuck in the middle. I do my best to get on with everyone, but it takes 2 for something like this...
damn woman, you have too mushc time on your hands... :)
I would never ditch my friends for a woman... Not again anyway, hey even if they are a great person you have no idea if it will last. My ex didn't like my friends and over time made me stop seeing them... Of course when it ended i had no one. So don't be hasty in ditching your friends cause they're the ones whole be there for you if things turn to shit.
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