What if you're wrong?
Ever since we studied the film Gattaca in high school I have always used the phrase "If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.", and I have always tried to do so, you know not be discouraged or have a sense of failure and get back up on my horse until I get what I want. Two days ago I got a cold hard slap in the face from reality a slap so strong it make me think about the other half of things, like what if everyone is wrong when they say 'don’t worry things will get better", well what happens if things don’t get better, what happens if they get worse? To every upside there is a down, there has to be or else there is no balance in the world, so what if things are not meant to get better? I thought about this with my parents in mind, my mums life ambitions was to, 1 become typist 2 find a nice man to marry 3 have children and my dads was 1 escape crazy family, 2 find nice girl to marry 3 have a family of his own 4 work until retirement and move to the beach with wife, and both of my parents did that, except of course dad who is waiting on 4 but still they did that, they lived their dreams but they got hell along the way and they both say to this day had they have known what they do now they would have done things differently, I honestly believe that my mum wouldn’t have married my dad and my dad would have never spoken to his family again had it not have been for mum. so what if all the people hanging in there for their dreams and fighting s hard to keep that relationship what if you’re all wrong, then what? What happens if everything you once believed blows up in your face and your certainties become uncertainties and the glass is half empty not half full? what if you end up like Wile E Coyote and no matter what schemes or measures you take in order to catch that damn Road Runner you fail every time, how long before you give up and move onto something else, sometimes you have to see things as negative and pessimistic in order to be realistic and this is just what I have done. What if you are wrong and I am right?
posted by spicey pineapple @ 10:19 am
12 Comments:
NO I AM RIGHT THINGS WILL GET BETTER AND THAT FUCKER IS GONNA PAY FOR THAT COLD SLAP IN THE FACE
I'm sorry you find yourself in such a quandry. Your questions are well asked. The solution, one of them, at least, is to take a moment to consider your future before you fly into something which may ruin your entire life. The weak link in your history was your father's #1 want: to escape his crazy family.
I notice that nowhere have you used the word love.
Marrying to escape one's relatives is a common and unfortunate thing. People do it, not only to flee, but to show those they are fleeing that they can succeed on some level.
Unfortunately, that person seldom takes into account to feeling of the person they are about to marry.
Now, obviously, not know your dad, I can't say anything about him. He might be the salt of the earth. Mr. Santoro's ex also wanted to escape. Her family was truly crazy, in bad, illegal and immoral ways.
Sadly, she could not escape them. Not because they found her, but because she kept returning to them.
This often happens as well. It's sometimes called "The Stockhom Syndrome" after a kidnapping by terrorists in Stockholm in the 60's, where hostages were kept for such a length of time that they actually fought against the rescuers that came to save them.
You should take a breath before making any major decisions. Do not be bullied into bad judgement. If you do this, your future will be brighter than if you do not, that is all I can say. Incidentally....SPLOINK! First!
gee's that pretty full on!!!! Well i think you have got to take everything on full bore and cross the hurdle's as you get to them. It's always easy for people to say they would do things differently, but at the time you take the options which appears the best at the time and you deal with it. You learn from your mistakes!! I do agree some of the things that are said like - it will get better, or you will get over it, are things which we say maybe to cheer each other up or sound like we are supporting each other, while they may be said more in hope then anything! The coyote is never going to get the road runner and that is a fact!! But most people work hard to obtain there goals!! It is definatly a good subject for debate, but i guess if everything worked out well and happened as we wanted people may infact be bored with that!! Imagine if we where all succesful rich and good looking!!
Ha ha hope i have given you some answers, or maybe something to think about!!! what do u think????
hey hey
as always very insightful stuff bee, although i reckon its the journey that matters, so if you are doing something that makes you happy stick with it...whether it looks like things will work out or not. so JUST KEEP SMILING!
You know there are some religious groups that proffer the theory that this existence is actually hell, and that we must trancend it in order to grow spiritually and all that stuff.
It kinda makes sense.
As a reasonably cynical, bitter and negative person, who can also be an outrageously positive and optimistic person, I think the Enterness credo of trying to only 'be where u are' right now is the only answer.
As far as personal problems go, at this very moment in time, if u are alive, then its all good, according to that mindset.
When i can get into it, it works a treat, but takes some doing, especially on darker days.
Try reading 'the power of now' by Eckhardt Toll and see if it makes any sense to ya
Good luck DPT
Spray
Sometimes i think it seems that you need a pessimistic view on things to be realistic because realism is simply a theory based on patterns based on past events, simply put a theory based on things which have happened around you. I think because this world isnt a nice world as many are tricked into thinking as a child and when we grow up we feel the need to become "realistic" to have a sense of what will happen in various situations. I think we can keep looking up when the world beats us down and have hope in various things and i say sure i could be wrong however i put my faith/trust in something which i have seen results from, God. Im sure this may seem like a poor religious cop-out hiding behind a a doctirine to make it seem like everything is ok. But even so i when i put beleif in him and pray i see results, and until i see results i have a peace, a calm to keep my nerves from making me make bad decisions. Although many who dont believe in god may think what they will hes where i put my faith, so personally i dont think i dont feel i am wrong by believing in god.
In the universe there does exist a very delicate balance. For every action there is an equal & opposite reaction.
True, you cannot defy gravity; but gravity does not apply to all situations.
It's all about what you want in life. The thing or things you want are what you believe are the right path for you to take. If you want something, then you continue to try. How much you try (the level of effort) depends on how badly you want it.
Only your best judgement now can be used to determine what is right for you at a given time. Hopefully that judgement is based on "solid" reasoning, with input from people (including you) with knowledge or wisdom about it.
Circumstances change through life. Something that was right at one time could be wrong at another. Whether you hold onto to a goal depends on how it fits with your current situation. That determines whether it's wrong. Again, level of effort relative to the desire for the goal.
ok first of all i'm going to yell at you for thinking that way, sometimes things are bad, if you don't help them get better then you become a crazy cat lady, if you sit on your ass and do nothing about your life then of course it's going to look bad. You have always told me to be positive and that you can do anything so now i'm telling you that, your a smart girl/lady/women (pick one) and you can do anything if you put your mind to it. your bound to be wrong about something in your life but that’s how you learn to deal with life, if everything was simple you'd be bored and have no challenge in your life.
Now get off you fat ass and do something. your never wrong just misguided.
Bee, Most of our problems start because we have unrealistic expectations. We all have a cross to bear. No cross, no crown. Sometimes it's how we look at something that makes it seem like a problem. Look at it another way, and it may appear an opportunity. But don't expect lasting happiness. There's no such thing as a permanent state of bliss.
No guarantees in life. All you can do is make the best of the situation you're in and be ready when opportunity presents itself. Its probably easier to be ready for opportunities in life if you have a positive attitude and outlook about where you are and where you want to be.
Negative energy has a way of perpetuating itself and can ruin those opportune moments. In other words the best you can do is keep your head up and keep plugging along.
Damn bee, don't think like that... Thinking like that is a contributor to feeling unhappy. Apparently you have alot of friends who will be there for you. And there's always an offer to come up and party in Sydney with me.
Post a Comment
<< Home