A good kick in the rear
One of the things that I cannot stand is people who constantly whine and bitch how crappy, their perfectly fine, lives are, it annoys me to the point of me cracking the shits and telling people where to go. Having said that, I am always one for being the shoulder to cry on, helping people when they are down, but if you try to sit there are tell me that your life is crappy and there is nothing you can do to benefit it if you haven’t even tried time and time again I will undoubtedly get upset with you and tell you where to go. Sometimes what people need is a good kick in the rear, not a literal one of course, but a firm talking to that lets them know that they are the only ones who can truly change their lives and it is better to go out and so something about it then dwell and let life and all its overwhelming possibilities get to you. People should always allow time to have their rant on how bad things are and have their time to get over it but at the same time people need to know when enough is enough and to get back into the game of life because the world waits for no man. Sometimes being the person giving the kick in the rear sucks because it can go either way, a person can pick themselves up and try and do things to make them happy, or they can look at you like an insensitive monster who just wants them to shut up rather then you trying to help them, so you got to be careful on how you approach it. If you know of someone who is whining be sure to be the kick in the rear, no one likes to hear people whine and not do anything so instead of burdening someone else by you saying to them ‘I know someone who just doesn’t shut up about their problems’, take some action and for goodness sake give the people who need it a good kick in the rear
posted by spicey pineapple @ 4:31 pm
12 Comments:
well said!
I don't think it's your place nor your right to make judgement as to whether people do or not deserve to "whine" about their "perfectly fine lives". How do you even know what kind of lives peoples are leading? And whether, just because it seems fine and dandy to you, they are even enjoying it? I'm sure even the wretched likes of Paris and Co. have brief flirtations of wonderment as to their real purpose,if any (if i had millions of dollars, would I necessarily be happy?). People (except emos) generally don't invent problems for themselves, this is gonna come as quite as a shock, but some people don't like feeling depressed, alone, alienated, or stunted. shock horror. That whole "tough love" thing you're trying to implement is coming off more as bitterness, maybe because you're the only person that has the right complain about your life? right? Tell you what, If you never, ever, say another word about life, the universe and everything being a big shitparty, maybe your point can be validated, until then, maybe put the hypocrite hat back in it's box.adieu.
ps. the phrase is "time waits for no man", also sometimes found as "time and tide wait for no man", the original creation of the phrase tracing back to Chaucer in the 1300s.
My Two (or more) Cents
hmmm an interesting, if not contentious topic you got there. but there if a fine fine better you're 'good kick in the rear' and lacking compassion. i think one would need to tread lightly as the person would already be feeling low and if not handled properly, it could feel like theyre being kicked while down....by a friend!!
even in the instances where a person could be moping about for days over the most trivial or trivialities, one in five people will be unable to cheer up no matter the propblem, no matter the advice. for these one in five with suffering a unipolar major depressive episode (psych speek for depression for those of you playing at home) not to mention the millions of people just having a crappy as day when everything sets you off (we've all been there... crying cos your toast burnt and youre sleepy) being told "get over" it doesnt really help...and can make things worse.
but i do get the sentiment and agree with it essentially... its not cool to watch friends upset and not try to help them out of it, and sometimes it isnt a sympathetic ear they need....and yes it is so possible just to get stuck in a rut and get into the ol cycle of self-pity and pessimism. But no two cases are the same, so there is no way there can be one solution. So it all comes back to my main point, do what is ultimately right by the person and tread with caution...cos sometimes cruel isnt kind...sometimes its just plain cruel.
XISIX
ps MWAH love you bee!!
I disagree with dib, people need 2 be told when they complaining 2 much or they will never stop. Why isn’t it bee place 2 say? She has as much right to free speech as anyone and if she wants to tell people they need a kick up the rear so be it. U tell them girlfriends!!
I can most definitely see where you are coming from Bee...same with you Dib.
It obviously does depend on the situation. But, yes, there can be times when people do need a kick up the bum. Sometimes you need a friend to tell you like it is because you may have been so upset that you overlooked it. Not discrediting, of course, that sometimes the person just needs someone to listen, say they understand & they'll be off on their merry way.
Have a lovely day everyone!
Yer preachin' to the choir, madam.
i agree :P im a good listener, people always telling me they're problems :S kinda depressing actually...
Bee, You know it's really strange to me that we get involved in relationships thinking we'll be happier, but then we get all the retarded melodrama that comes with relationships and we think: this really sucks, I didn't count on all this. But instead of opting out, people are actually praised for being the kind of person who's willing to put up with a lot of BS and going through hard times. It's a kind of test of character. That's why so few single people are elected to hold high office. People think: if they can't stand to be in a family situation or committed relationship, they probably don't have what it takes to hold public office either.
I'm guessing this is my 'official' kick...Thanks! LOL.
Whoa, Be careful on this one. I know how this shit can get, I was feeling like this at one point and it didn't go down well, when someone tried giving me a Kick... It wound up in the loss of a friend.
So be careful about how you do this.
Or better yet just take them out partying regularly... Turns out that was all i needed, friends and parties. Now i party with my friends every weekend... I even managed to go out last night on $5.
YES!
Stop whining about life and live it I say!
bee kick em! kick em hard! specially those ones that come to you n bitch n whine to u about something trivial when something MAJOR ( like a death of a family member) has happened in ur life...i know exactly wat ur talking about
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