Don't hate the player, hate the game
Ladies and gents I hate game players, people who actively play mind games in order to manipulate people to get what they want. It's frustrating, confusing and down right pointless, especially for those people who are open and honest and don't beat around the bush about what it is that they want. When a person is caught out for trying to play games they usually turn around and say a phrase like: 'don't hate the player, hate the game". Most of us do hate the game! Who would invent such a thing as playing games like that, messing with a persons mind, you know what gets to me though? Despite how much we all hate it, we all take a part in it, some time or another in our lives we go and play games and only when it blows up in our face do we stop. Is there a true point to all this game playing when a person can be open and honest and still get what it is that they desire?
posted by spicey pineapple @ 1:30 pm
11 Comments:
Playing games is dishonest and disrespectful, and is not the only way to get what you want. Game playing is just self dillusion, making someone do something that they probably didn't want to do in the first place. Whether it's through bribery, seduction, guilt-tripping, whatever. It's just another symptom of today's throw-away society. You use someone and then discard them.
Atleast if you're honest about what you want and they're honest about what they want, you can use each other for whatever with no reproach.
Well very truthful and honest Bel. Nobody likes games unless everyone is a willing particpant. Keep up the honesty girl.
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games eh, if ppl want 2 play them good luck, if ppl get played unlucky, learn from it and move on. Its a big world out there everyone will find there niche somewhere!
now theres ur comment stop buggin me about it! :P
Interesting my friend.....once i got angry when i was playing call of duty..i nocked one of my keys off the key board...lol
and i played online before....and someimes.....the players make fu of you.....this due kept calling me gay....i shot his head of cause it was a war game....i got my revenge in a game..lol
so whats it like in austrailia....at the moment..is it nice and sunny....its raining here at this mement...any shark attacks...over there...
oh well.....
ill try and post something later....iv created a new site...and im in between..
Hey,
Interesting post. But have you ever tried or even imagined playing someone who you knew was a game player themselves? The whole wrong + wrong = ???? thing. In the end, it would be a big acting contest (as most human interactions are); I've never actually tried this myself (not intentionally, at least), but I have witnessed it a few times. Hearing both sides to two liars stories really tells you much about who those people really are. HEY! I just thought of a great example of two game players trying to play each other: POLITICAL DEBATES!
Anyway, thanks for visiting and commenting on my blog.
I'm not a fan of games either. I much rather people be upfront about stuff.
But really isn't dating (I mean like first or second dates) kinda like playing games? People trying to impress and figure each other out and not necessarily always being themselves and sometimes going places and doing things that they normally wouldn't.
Sometimes games are harmless, but there is no excuse for putting someone's feelings on the line, if you really care about them just for having a little fun.
Players need to grow up!
Lotsa love
XISIX
I would never play you Bee!
I like Chris's comment. Truth is, a certain amount of "game playing" is necessary. But it doesn't have to be the kind that you are referring to. THAT kind is typically immature and unhealthy! It is an art, a balancing act of sorts, to know when to be blunt and when to save someone's feelings by while still expressing your opinion.
Being able to express things in a more subtle way can be effective. In fact it can be even more effective because it doesn't put people on the defensive.
Perhaps I am no perfectly on topic here but I see a connection between this posting and your post about your family.
Finally, No, you don't have to hate the player but you CAN tell them that a person's character is reflected in how they behave. If they are busy playing games with you, what kind of person are they, and why should you continue to be a friend to a person with questionable character?!
Now, personally. I love playing games... as long as i have the cheat codes. lol. But seriously, have you been hanging out with my Ex, she's the only person i know that is that manipulative.
this is just a general post on the way some people do play games, i have no time for game players, they simply annoy me. ah well, thanks for all the comments peoples it means lots to me =)
You hit the nail on the head with this one!!! (Found you through "man and the city")
I've actually been told that I am TOO honest and open by my sister on more than one occasion - she wants me to tell her the truth only when she wants to hear it basically, otherwise it would be preferable that the 'truth' be 'sugar-coated' so as to still be sweet enough to swallow! :wtf:
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