Will you wait for me?
Ladies and gents someone close to me had their partner leave them for trip overseas for approximately three months right, and I think that they left it as the person staying said; "go have fun with who ever and I will wait for you until you get back". I don't know about the rest of you, but I both like and dislike the idea, I like the fact that the person overseas has the freedom to...Sample the fruits of the world, but then again I dislike the idea, if you are with someone and you care about them is it appropriate when having that distance for that amount of time to actually go and have fun with other people? I mean is it possible to go overseas and not get some? I'm on the fence about the whole idea, see if it were me in the same place I'd say to my partner go and have fun, but then again it would depend on the circumstances, how long I have been with them, what kind of relationship we have, its hard, so my question to you is what would you do? Would you let your significant other go off and explore the world and all it has to offer alone and let them do as they please, or would you expect them to be faithful? Not only that, but what would you do in the mean time? Would you be allowed to go and have fun as you please, or will you be restricted because you are not sampling the fruits of the world and only the local ones? And it all comes down to the age old question, will you wait for me?
posted by spicey pineapple @ 10:29 am
12 Comments:
i personally would have comfort believing that my partner would not stray but i guess you can never fully trust whether they will or not because you dont know who or what is waiting there for them.. i beleive that it depends on how much you love that person.. and do you love them enough to trust that they will be faithful to you.. and another question would be, if you gave your partner permission to be free whilst overseas would you want to know what he/she did there or rather never to bring it up again and go on like he/she never left?
love you bee..
Mia xo
ok you know where i stand on this topic.
For example if you cheated on me overseas you may aswell stay there because your ass would be dumped so hard you wouldnt walk for weeks. hehehehehehe :P
no to cheating! in any way, shape or form. if any one has cheated, be ashamed of yourselfs.
Unfortunately i know how it feels being cheated on. Depends how much i liked the person but i would more than likely want to go with them.
to me cheating is cheating, if you leave someone waiting for you, and then get with someone else while your away, youve cheated.
if you both decide to take a mutal break, and both have the option to be with other people then i think thats different.
yeah, I couldn't in honesty say "you go and have fun with other men"
well, I am jealous, and as someone who has experienced his girlfriend "messing around with someone', fully admitting that emotionally she was committed to me, I found it to be bullshit, you make sacrifices for intimacy and comfort, and one of those sacrifices is indiscriminate sex
Some people have more open relationships and it's not considered cheating. They know that their relationship is strong and the love they have with each other will be there whether they are together or not. Love is always there, and people can make more.
Cheating is usually done without the other's knowledge and is a symptom of a weak or failing relationship.
I'd think it'd have to be all or nothing. Either both have to be free or neither one can be. Also if both are free and one doesn't have as much fun as the other could that cause problems? Would it be worth it? I'd think a serious enough relationship it wouldnt' be worth it.
If the relationship is serious, then it ain't on! If everything was cruisy like that to begin with, then no harm I guess. I personally find the whole idea quite wrong.
It sounds like selfishness masquerading as altruism. The person who says go and enjoy yourself probably means "go so I can enjoy myself."
I didnt stray and of that fact i am very proud. As i was ever faithful to the person, that i loved. Kennedy had a great deal of trust in me, that i was hers for as long as she wanted, and it went both ways. I trusted that she would not stray.
love in the end i think is knowning that you trust this person with your heart. cause at the end of the day i trust a few with my life, but have trusted two woth my heart. And the girl in question, decided she would keep it.
Cheating is cheating, and it breaks hearts, friendships, minds, bodies and souls.
Listen to the song by the wreckers, "leave the pieces".
Love ya Bee
Jess
Allo Bee!
I know *rolls eyes* here comes the "oh bert she's so innocent" answer lol. But bare with me! I think that it depends very much on that actual relationship. I know that Glenn & I (for those reading who don't know me - Glenn is my other half of 2 years 7 months & 1 day but who's counting) would never allow that for the other - but then again - neither of us have ever been the type to flirt/perve/try pick up/go "hunting/spotting" & we're the only people we've been with. It is possible that we don't want to sample because we are the only ones we have sampled and are happy to leave it there. HOWEVER...
...Some couples actually find it possible to bond over their time apart & from reporting back to each other - apparently it can infact rekindle feelings that were fading/reached a plateau. It is something new & exciting & the fact that you're partner can get it elsewhere can, for some people, makes them seem more desirable. & this type can make it a "sharing" thing - giving them something to talk about & the sharing of feelings etc.
For others, the ones that don't report back, it could be perhaps that they would like to commit in their relationship, but aren't quite ready to commit - so they have their bit of "freedom", some extra experience & then come back to the one they are ready to settle down with. Conversely this could help people realise that they aren't sufficiently satisfied with their current relationship & a "break up for the best" could be in order. Not saying any of these refer to your friend of course, but this is an interesting topic.
THEN there is the fact that forbidden can often result in more tantalising. I'm NOT condoning cheating, again bare with me, or lying/keeping things from your partner - but getting some isn't the only "encounter" you can have. Sometimes the thrill of having a secret crush on the bell boy who seems to be VERY nice to you is just is good. Nothing will happen, but is flattering & can be exciting (& there is no harm in letting your mind wonder). Whether you tell your current partner about people you have an international crush on is up to personal taste (I personally would). & lets face it - accents are so damn sexy! The point would be in this case, at the end of the day, you are coming back to them - not mister "wee wee I speak sweedish".
Sorry bout the essay - Love Bert!
There's absolutely no way that I would ever condone Adrian putting his hand in anyone elses cookie jar and he wouldn't even dream of saying I could. Whether it's here or 1000 miles away, it's still cheating.
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