Why do old habits die hard?
Ladies and gents I want to know why it is that after being rejected by someone who is, without a doubt, a not so nice human being we turn to our ex's? We turn to them in hope that they will not reject us and reassure us, we abandon hope of finding someone who is better suited for us and turn to the people we have already discarded in relationships? Is it because there is security and stability and we know what to expect? Is it that because there are still lingering embers after the flame has died down? Instead of being hopeful and not letting one loser get us down we let it affect us, at least once in our life time, thus turning to people whom we believe will not reject us despite the history you have had with this person, it does not matter that if at the end of your previous relationships you loathed the person so long as they did not reject you we consider this reasoning. When will we learn that there are better and great things out there and we don't have to continue with our old habits and just let them die instead of dying hard?
posted by spicey pineapple @ 11:22 am
9 Comments:
My princess,
And why in a time of need does your best friend not approach you with their problems when they know very well that they will be heard and maybe solved?..
We turn to our ex's because we know that they have seen the worst of us and they can give us that reassurance we need, to know that we have been loved or liked by a person and not every guy will reject us..
That ugly man who rejected you showed you that he is not only ugly on the outside but ugly on the in as well and in a way he did you a favour by not leading you down a path of forever living your life with a man that is as shallow and ugly as he is..
there will be a beautiful person out there for you.. your still young so remember that and also remember that you have close friends who love you and would do anything for you to be happy.. i love you belinda and i would rescue my princess (you) any day..
love your best friend Mia
Peace out ladie fella......
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OHHH I have been here, I am married to a beautiful man, have a gorgeous boy, and sometimes, am still there and don't know why.....why do the bad, heart wrenching ones, still come back to haunt me?
I'm sorry bee but I'm on the other side of the fence on this one; when you consider most of my ex's you'll understand why. I wouldn't go back to them if youd paid me. On the other hand i can see where you're coming from. My opinion is biased because i'm with the man that i love. But there was a time when i went to my ex when i wasn't getting any off anyone else. And so i conclude my useless contribution
To go back to your ex is a sign of weakness for me which shows that we havent moved on deep inside.
You are looking for love from outside. To say "I love you" first of all we must need to understand 'I'. So instead of looking outside, start from yourself. You first love yourself and dont read too much onto whatever anyone might say or think.
Just love yourself and u'll have a lot of ppl loving you
Cheers ;)
I think in time we start to forget the bad things about our ex's, and just remember the fun we had with them. Well, that kept me coming back to the same man for 11 years.
It is hard to get over rejection, but we must. It is what makes us grow into stronger people.
(hugs)
to me the ex is often the 'fallback guy', the one who you can go to when your single and lonely and want some company, the one who you can go to when your boyfriends giving you the shits. The one you will always have the 'whats ifs' about when you are in another relationship, regardless of if you love the person or not.
I've done it so many times myself and have been the fall back person almost as many times and although i keep asking myself why, i know itll probably continue to happen.
I'm glad I don't talk to any of my ex's.
However I do have a friend that I should've dated a long time and we only talk when we're single. Odd thing...of all the years we finally just hooked up. I think it'll end up being a one nighter but there was still that ex kinda comfort there I think.
So long as no one is hurt/embarrased is an occasional odd moment like that such a bad thing?
I think it's the "security and stability". Comfort. The ex is like family. It may be dyfunctional, but it's there. When you can find that comfort in yourself, then you don't look outside for it when the world ... doesn't run your way.
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